My Teen Daughter Bullies by a School mate, but Her Dad’s response is spectacular

Sally is my daughter who is very nice and having a kind corner for all. Her grades are good, she has nice friends, and still manages to be a wonderful loving daughter whenever possible. She has never been grounded by me in high school and has yet to give me a reason to believe that she is misbehaving.

I am a single dad with three daughters. It is hard but I thought we were doing okay. At 16, Sally’s the oldest.

I received call from a disappointed mom who said my girl was bullying in the school. They took some pictures of the girl and put them into “funny” poses such as bending over to pick something up in which her butt crack was showing. The pictures seem like they were all about fat shaming because I know the girl is very overweight…

It is said to mom that her daughter had cried loudly to slit her wrists, now she is admitted in hospital.

Sally is on the beach today and will be home in several hours. I am mad; what should I do? I have always raised her to be kind and respectful of others, yet it seems like she is a stranger to me now. From what I have gathered, Sally was leading them all in this…

That was some days ago.

So, Sally was due to get back by 8.30 p.m., this evening. At 8:15 pm she called me. She requested that she could spend the night at a friend’s place. “No, you come back here right now!” I told her.

She uttered these last words before hanging up “I am already there! Bye”. Off I went towards my friend’s house which was vacant.

The parents of many more friends were then telephoned by me until finally somebody’s brother answered saying they had gone to the park. Indeed, upon reaching the playground about thirty children were seen gathered around a burning fire. In one corner stood my daughter with a solo cup next to a beer keg.

So, I don’t get angry… but enough is enough. I went straight up to her and told them that I was not going to make sense, but she required me to get in the vehicle with me.

She turned into another guy; I am 18! You cannot do this to me.

You are embarrassing me!

I snapped.

I am not sure what I said, but it was along the lines of – you’d be embarrassed!

You put a teen girl in the hospital because of what you and your buddies have been up and now you’ve lied to me and you’re drinking alcohol underage. Your mom would be so ashamed of you, I do not even know who you’re anymore.

I caused some sort of stir it was such an issue she jumped into the car and now she is home. All my electronics are gone. I told her to log in to Facebook anonymously and apologize on behalf of herself by stating that she was the one who posted the pictures. Having signed in, I immediately started going through her posts. There was more than a person he share about. This particular Facebook page was all about laughing at other students called “nerds and loners” of the school. Maybe 50 pictures.

She put up an apology, then I said she couldn’t do anything for the rest of the summer holiday. Undetermined future until then all our plans remain cancelled. She may use a landline telephone but only when I am nearby.

Other consequences I am promoting:

Community service – still researching on it, and looking for advice from others concerning it.

When the girl is discharged from the hospital, Sally promises to say sorry to her as well as her family members.

I took down her door. No privacy for a while

Let’s sleep over it tonight. If she wants to fight me tooth and nail tomorrow morning then let it be so. In case she accepts her punishment and consents to these terms, I will deliberate on how long the time limit should last.