Drama Ensues After Woman Asked Sister-in-Law & Brother To Find Someone To Care For Their Kids During The Day

Family is a strong, important source of connection, belongingness and valuable lessons. The bond with family secures well-being and support regardless of age or occupation even.

Maintaining healthy boundaries is vital in order to have a strong relationship that is not abused or invades one’s privacy. In this sense it is necessary to treasure and foster family ties which would make it possible to build up in the ever-changing world.

Putting someone’s need above yours is never a great idea, even if it is your loved ones.

Women wonders if she is wrong for telling sister-in-law and brother to find an alternative childcare choice, as watching their children affects her work performance.

My elder brother had had 2 children.

But I am, childfree by choice.

” We’re remote workers and super busy in life. We can’t care kids”

“My bro has had cut backs. Kids are going to school online for some reasons, so they need help with childcare.”

She never wanted children but plays auntie and uncle to her siblings’ kids. They care for their cousin whenever required, even though they enjoy peace and quietness a lot together with their husband. The man’s sister-in-law got a part-time job because of the husband’s work problems as the couple had to step in almost on full time basis in taking care of their children who are studying remotely.

“My brother asked if we’d be willing watch them during the day since my partner and I both work from home, and we agreed with the promise that it’d be temporary until they’d find other childcare arrangements. That was 4 months ago.”

“I’ve a trail, coming up and have been working among 70-80 each week to prepare.”

I have had many conversations with my brother and sister-in-law where I told them that it is impossible for me to look after the children and work at the same time, so they should find alternative arrangements because I am overwhelmed.

Yesterday was too much when there was an important client meeting and kids began fighting over a TV remote. My husband was still in a call and couldn’t handle it, so I had to leave the meeting mid-way to address their concerns.

When she came to pick them up my SIL, I said that only two weeks are left until they can figure out something appropriate since I do not want to babysit again. That my work performance suffered from this situation was what I explained her.

She called me selfish.” “My brother could call me and told me that I’ve no compassion for what they’re going through, and that needs my help.”

But then again, if it were about money issues, I did tell him that for their studies during daytime, a nanny or aupair would be worth paying for. But all of this only made him angrier according to my brother.

Time passes; sister-in-law has resigned while her brother again fuelled the fire by saying that if his family ends up being homeless – she will be held responsible for that.